“Love is love”. In this big big big world, everyone is a lover and giver in one form or another.The imbalance between loving and giving is the fact which raises questions of self love on individual minds. “Should I like myself? “, what a bogus thought after all. Each individual means they are no further divisible. If not me the core question is whom should I love? one cannot just love another person or thing or God without loving oneself. In words of Sadhguru ” Shame and guilt are a social phenomenon. What people feel guilty about in one society, they do not feel guilty about in another society. Shame and guilt are not natural. It is just that certain religions have made you feel guilty about everything. If you list out all the things they consider as a sin that you should feel guilty about, you must feel guilty about being alive, because your very birth is supposed to be a sin. All your life, you feel guilty. If certain religious teachings were not there, guilt and shame would not exist. If there was no room for guilt and shame, you would correct your actions. “
The factors and road to shame and guilt differ from person to person to perspective to perspective. This Pride month let us join hands to explore the domain of “Love is love” in the context of self-love.
The road to self love is unattainable without self forgiveness. Mistakes are made by everyone give yourself a second chance. Most people never get a second chance in life.
In Haryana in 2011, two women were beaten to death by one of their nephews for being in an “immoral” relationship. This is not even to mention the harassment, blackmail and ostracism faced by LGBT people on a daily basis. Forgive yourself, free yourself from the shame and guilt and grasp your second chance.
There is no shame in putting yourself first. Far away from gay pride parades, meet-ups and heated discussions on Twitter, families in rural India have their own ways of dealing with LGBT individuals. In some parts, secret honor killings are planned so that the only way for a young gay man to survive is to run away in the cover of the night to some city, with no money or social support. Not for others bit at least to live your own life you have to consider yourself first. You will always be you no matter what society says, no matter what your family or friends say, no matter what the world says…you will always be you.
Always say to yourself ‘ I love you’. All the haters in the world cannot break your resolve if you love yourself first.
In today’s world despite discriminations and stereotypes what people recognize in strength and talents. Improve your strength and talents no one will put a finger on you. Your path will be craved out automatically. It will not be a smooth one but it will be a relatively less rough one.
Release negativities from yourself. It is a very tough option when are in T zone of negativity. Try to focus on the positive aspects of life. Instead of reading materials which depict martyrdom and says about people who didn’t make through this struggle try to focus on people who are still fighting in striving in society.
If you had told Ayesha Kapur 10 years ago that she would help lead the fight against one of the world’s oldest laws criminalizing gay sex, she would never have believed you. For most of her life, Ms. Kapur was afraid to ever speak of her sexuality.
Growing up in New Delhi during the 1980s, Ms. Kapur knew of no gay women, no reference points from Bollywood movies that could provide the vocabulary for what she was feeling. The word “lesbian,” she said, was “like a bad word.”
Three decades later, Ms. Kapur, who describes herself as deeply private and mostly apolitical, became a member of the first group of gay petitioners to challenge the law, known as Section 377.
Idolize people like Ms. Kapur who is fighting her as well as other peoples battle for such a long time.
Thrive on your creativity. We are all remarkably creative, but our originality may be stunted by external factors. Expand your creative potential to reach its peak in time.
“The ugly truth is that You are not required to set yourself on fire to save other people”. Prioritize yourself, love yourself.
